يروى ان ﻣﻬﻨﺪﺱ ﺑﺘﺮﻭﻝ كثير السفر والتنقل نظرا لطبيعة عملة فى التنقيب عن البترول فقد ﺗﻮﻓّﻴﺖ ﺯﻭﺟﺘﻪ ﻭﺗﺮﻛﺖ ﻟﻪ ﺛﻼﺛﺔ ﻣﻦ ﺍﻷﺑﻨﺎﺀ
ﺃﻛﺒﺮﻫﻢ ﻓﻲ الصف الثالث الاﺑﺘﺪﺍﺋﻲ
ﻭﺃﺻﻐﺮﻫﻢ ﻋﺎﻣﻴﻦ .....
ﻭﺑﻌﺪ ﺿﻐﻂ ﻣﻦ ﺍﻷﺳﺮﺓ عليه ﻟﻠﺰّﻭﺍﺝ لمتابعة حياته وحياة اولاده الصغار
ﺩﺧﻞ ﺃﻛﺘﺮ ﻣﻦ ﺑﻴﺖ للبحث وللزواج ﻭﻟﻢ ﺗﻮﺍﻓﻖْ ﻋﻠﻴﻪ اى ﻭﺍﺣﺪﺓ نظرا ﻟﻠﻤﺴﺆﻭﻟﻴّﺔ ﺍﻟﻜﺒﻴﺮﺓ ﺍﻟّﺘﻲ ﻓﻲ ﺍﻧﺘﻈﺎﺭﻫﺎ، ﻭﺧﺎﺻّﺔ ﺃﻧﻪ ﻏﻴﺮ ﻣﻮﺟﻮﺩ ﻓﻲ ﺍﻟﺒﻴﺖ ﻣﻌﻈﻢ ﺍﻟﺸّﻬﺮ ﻧﻈﺮﺍً ﻟﻈﺮﻭﻑ ﻋﻤﻠﻪ ....
ﻭﺑﻌﺪ ﻓﺸﻠﻪ ﻓﻲ ﺃن ﻳﺘﺰﻭّﺝ ﻭﻓﺸﻠﻪ ﻓﻲ ﺃن ﻳﺄﺧﺪ ﺇﺟﺎﺯﺍﺕ ﺃﻛﺘﺮ ﻣﻦ ﺷﻐﻠﻪ،
ﻗﺮّﺭ ﺃﻥ ﻳﺠﻠﺐ ﻣﺮﺑّﻴﺔ ماهرة متعلمة ﻟﻸﻭﻻﺩ ﺗﺠﻠﺲ ﻣﻌﻬﻢ،
ﻭﻓﻌﻼً ﺑﺪﺃ ﻳﻀﻊ ﺍﻟﻤﻮﺍﺻﻔﺎﺕ لذلك
ﺑﺄﻥ ﺗﻜﻮﻥ ﺟﺎﻣﻌﻴّﺔ ﻭﺗﻌﺮﻑ اللغة الانجلبزية ﻭﻻ ﻳﺰﻳﺪ ﻋﻤﺮﻫﺎ ﻋﻦ 45 عام ﻟﺘﻘﺪﺭ ﻋﻠﻰ ﺧﺪﻣﺘﻬﻢ،
ﻭﺗﻜﻮﻥ ... ﻭﺗﻜﻮﻥ ..... ﺇﻟﺦ ... بمواصفات عدة
ﻭﺑﺎﻟﻔﻌﻞ ﺗﻘﺪّﻣﺖ ﻭﺍﺣﺪﺓ ﻟﻠﻮﻇﻴﻔﺔ،
ﻋﻤﺮﻫﺎ ﻓﻲ ﻣﻨﺘﺼﻒ ﺍﻟﺜّﻼﺛﻴﻨﻴّﺎﺕ، ﻭﺑﺪﺃﺕ ﻛﻼﻣﻬﺎ :
ﺃﻧﺎ ﺟﺎﻣﻌﻴّﺔ ﻭﺃﺗﻜﻠّﻢ الاﻧﺠﻠﻴﺰبة ﻭالفرنسية ﺑﻄﻼﻗﺔ ...
ﺃﻧﺎ ﻭﺟﺪﺕ طلبك للوظيفة لرعاية ﺃﻭﻻﺩﻙ ﻭ ﺳﺄﻗﺒﻞ ﺍﻟﻮﻇﻴﻔﺔ ﻷﻧّﻲ ﻣﺤﺘﺎﺟﺔ ﻟﻠﻤﺎﻝ ﻭﺗﻠﻚ ﺷﺮﻭﻃﻲ :
اولا..
ﺃﻧﺎ ﻣﺮﺗّﺒﻲ 200 درهم في ﺍﻟﺸّﻬﺮ ﻟﺮﻋﺎﻳﺔ 3 ﺃﻭﻻﺩ ﻣﻨﻬﻢ ﻃﻔﻞ ﺭﺿﻴﻊ .
ثانيا..
ﺃﻧﺎ ﻣﺴﺆﻭﻟﻪ ﻋﻦ ﺍﻷﻭﻻﺩ ﻓﻘﻂ، ﻋﻦ ﻧﻮﻣﻬﻢ ﻭاستيقاظهم ﻭﺃﻛﻠﻬﻢ ﻭﻧﻈﺎﻓﺘﻬﻢ ﺍﻟﺸّﺨﺼﻴﺔ بصفه عامة
ﺃﻣّﺎ ﺇﺫﺍ ﺃﺭﺩﺕ ﺃﻥ ﺃﺩﺭّﺳﻬﻢ واواصل تعليمهم فهذا سوف يزيد ﻣﺮﺗّﺒﻲ 30 درهم اخرى
ﻭﺇﺫﺍ ﺃﺭﺩﺕ ﺃﻥ ﺃﻃﺒﺦ ﻟﻸﻭﻻﺩ ﻓﻌﻠﻴﻚ ﺃﻥ ﺗﺰﻳﺪ ﻟﻲ 40 درهما اخرى ﺸﺮﻁ ﺃﻥ ﺗﺠﻠﺐ ﺍلاحتياجات ﻣﻦ ﺍلاسواق
ﻭﺇﺫﺍ ﺃﺭﺩﺕ ﺃﻥ ﺃﻏﺴﻞ ﻣﻼﺑﺲ ﺍﻟﺮّﺿﻴﻊ ﻓﻌﻠﻴﻚ ﺃﻥ ﺗﺰﻳﺪ ﻟﻲ20 درهم اخرى
ﻭﺇﺫﺍ ﻛﺎﻥ ﺃﺣﺪ الاطفال ﻳﻌﺎﻧﻲ ﻣﻦ اى ﻣﺮﺽ ﻣﻌﻴﻦ ﻭﻳﺤﺘﺎﺝ الى ﺭﻋﺎﻳﺔ ﺧﺎﺻّﺔ فستزيد لى 30 درهما اخرى
ﺃﻣّﺎ نظافة ﺍﻟﻤﻨﺰﻝ ﻭﺭﻋﺎﻳﺘﻚ ﻭﺭﻋﺎﻳﺔ ﺍﻷﻭﻻﺩ ﺍﻟﻜﺒﺎﺭ ﻓﺄﻧﺎ ﻟﺴﺖ بمسؤﻭﻟﺔ ﻋﻦ هذا
ﻭﺳﺘﻀﻄّﺮّ ﺃﻥ ﺗﺠﻠﺐ ﺧﺎﺩﻣﺔ لكل هذا.
علما بان ﻳﻮﻡ ﺍﻟﺠﻤﻌﻪ ﺇﺟﺎﺯﺗﻲ ﻭﻋﻄﻠﺘﻲ ﺍﻷﺳﺒﻮﻋﻴّﺔ ﻭﻫﻮ ﻣﻦ ﺣﻘّﻲ ﻭلا اسمح ﺣﺘّﻰ ﺍﻹﺗّﺼﺎﻝ بى تليفونيا ﺇﻟّﺎ ﻓﻲ ﺣﺎﻻﺕ ﺍﻟﻀّﺮﻭﺭﺓ ﺍﻟﻘﺼﻮﻯ ..
ﺍﻟﺴﺆﺍﻝ ﺍﻵﻥ ﺑﻜﻢ ﺗﺪﻳﻦ ﻟﺰﻭﺟﺘﻚ؟
نظير كل هذه الوظائف او التعب الذى تفعله دون ان تشعر وانت خارج البيت بكل معاناتها مع البيت والاولاد
الان ﻫﻞ ﻋﺮﻓﺖ ﻟﻤﺎﺫﺍ الله ﺳﺒﺤﺎﻧﻪ ﻭﺗﻌﺎﻟﻰ ﺃﺧﺬ ﻣﻨﻚ ﻣﻴﺜﺎﻗﺎً ﻏﻠﻴﻈﺎً ﻣﻦ ﺃﺟل زوجتك ؟
ﺯﻭﺟﺘﻚ ﻻ ﺗﺄﺧﺬ ﻣﻨﻚ ﻣﺮﺗّﺒﺎً ﻧﻈﻴﺮ ﺧﺪﻣﺘﻚ ﻭﺧﺪﻣﺔ ﺃﻭﻻﺩﻙ، ﺑﺎﻟﻌﻜﺲ ﻓﻬﻲ ﺗﻌﻤﻞ ﻫﻜﺬﺍ ﻭﺃﻛﺜﺮ ﺑﻜﺜﻴﺮ،
ﻭﺑﺤﺐّ ﻭﺭﺿﻰ ﻭﻃﻴﺐ ﺧﺎﻃﺮ،
ﻓﻘﻂ ﻟﺘﺮﻯ ﺍﺑﺘﺴﺎﻣﺘﻚ ﻓﻲ ﻭﺟﻬﻬﺎ ﻭﻟﺘﻘﻮﻝ ﻟﻬﺎ
( ﺗﺴﻠﻢ ﺇﻳﺪﻳﻚ وتعبك) ، ﺃﻭ ﺗﻘﻮﻝ ﻟﻬﺎ ( ياسلام ع اﻟﺤﻼﻭﺓ والاتقان )
ﻭﻫﺬﺍ ﻳﻜﻮﻥ ﺃﻛﺒﺮ ﻛﻨﺰ ﻋﻨﺪﻫﺎ ﻓﻲ ﺍﻟﺪّﻧﻴﺎ ان تمدحها وتحسن معاملتها ومعاملة الاولاد كشريكة معك فى الحياه
... ﺇﺗّﻘﻮﺍ ﺍﻟﻠﻪ ﻓﻲ ﻧﺴﺎﺋﻜﻢ ...
ﻭﻋﺎﻣﻠﻮﻫﻦّ ﻛﻤﺎﺗﺤﺒّﻮﻥ ﺃﻥ ﺗُﻌﺎﻣﻞ ﺑﻨﺎﺗﻜﻢ حيت تتزوج ...
ﻭﻛﻤﺎ ﺇﻥّ ﺍﺑﻨﺘﻚ ﻏﺎﻟﻴﺔ ﻋﻨﺪﻙ ﻓﺈﻥّ ﺯﻭﺟﺘﻚ ﻏﺎﻟﻴﺔ ﻋﻨﺪ ﺃﺑﻮﻫﺎ ﻭﻛﺎﻧﺖ ( ﺃﻣﻴﺮﺓ ) ﻣﺪﻟّﻠﺔ ﻓﻲ ﺑﻴﺖ ﻭﺍﻟﺪﻫﺎ ...
ﺧﺬوا ﺑﻮﺻﻴّﺔ نبينا ﺍﻟﻤﺼﻄﻔﻰ ' ﺻل ﺍﻟﻠﻪ ﻋﻠﻴﻪ ﻭﺳﻠّﻢ ' ﺣﻴﻨﻤﺎ ﺃﻭﺻﻰ ﻋﻠﻴﻬن ﻓﻲ ﺧﻄﺒﺔ ﺍﻟﻮﺩﺍﻉ :
" ﺃﻭﺻﻴﻜﻢ ﺑﺎﻟﻨّﺴﺎﺀ ﺧﻴﺮﺍً،
ﻭﺣﻴﻦ ﻗﺎﻝ : ﺭﻓﻘﺎً ﺑﺎﻟﻘﻮﺍﺭﻳﺮ،
ﻭﺣﻴﻦ ﻗﺎﻝ : " ﺧﻴﺮﻛﻢ ﻷﻫﻠﻪ ﻭﺃﻧﺎ ﺧﻴﺮﻛﻢ ﻷﻫﻠﻲ "
ﺻﺪﻕت ياﺭﺳﻮﻝ ﺍﻟﻠﻪ ..
ﺇﺗّﻘﻮﺍ ﺍﻟﻠﻪ ﻟﺘﺴﻌﺪﻭﺍ ﻭﺗﻬﻨﺆﻭﺍ ﺑﺤﻴﺎﺗﻜﻢ
ﻻ ﺗﻮﺟﺪ ﺣﻴﺎﺓ ﺗﻌﻴﺴﺔ ﻭﻟﻜﻦ ﻳﻮﺟﺪ ﻣﻦ ﻳﺘﻌﺴﻮﺍ ﺃﻧﻔﺴﻬﻢ ..
" ﺭﺑﻨﺎ ﻫﺐ ﻟﻨﺎ ﻣﻦ ﺃﺯﻭﺍﺟﻨﺎ ﻭﺫﺭﻳّﺎﺗﻨﺎ ﻗُﺮّﺓ ﺃﻋﻴﻦ ﻭﺍﺟﻌﻠﻨﺎ ﻟﻠﻤﺘّﻘﻴﻦ ﺇﻣﺎﻣﺎ "
ﻗﻠﻴﻞ ﻣﻦ يفهمها ويطبقها هذه الوصايا
It is reported that a petroleum engineer travels a lot due to the nature of his work in oil exploration, so his wife passed away and left him three children.
The eldest of them is in the third grade of primary school
And the youngest of them is two years old .....
And after family pressure on him to marry, to pursue his life and the lives of his young children
More than one person entered a house to search and marry, and no woman agreed to him due to the great responsibility that awaits her, especially since he is not present at home most of the month due to his work conditions ....
And after his failure to get married and his failure to take more holidays than his work,
He decided to bring a skilled and educated nanny to the children to sit with them.
And really, he started laying out the specifications for that
To be a university and know the English language and not be more than 45 years old to be able to serve them,
And be ... and be ..... etc ... with many specifications
Indeed, one applied for the job,
She was in her mid-thirties, and she began to speak:
I am a university student and I speak fluent English and French ...
I found your job application to take care of your children, and I will accept the job because I need money, and these are my conditions:
First..
I get 200 dirhams a month to take care of 3 children, including one infant.
Secondly..
I am responsible for the children only, for their sleep, waking, eating, and personal hygiene in general.
But if I want to teach them and continue their education, this will increase my salary by another 30 dirhams.
And if I want to cook for children, you have to pay me another 40 dirhams, provided that you bring the needs from the markets.
And if you want to wash the baby's clothes, you have to pay me another 20 dirhams.
And if one of the children suffers from any specific disease and needs special care, it will increase to another 30 dirhams
As for the cleanliness of the house, your care and the care of older children, I am not responsible for this.
And she'll have to bring in a maid for all of this.
Knowing that Friday is my vacation and my weekend, which is my right. I do not even allow me to call me by phone except in cases of extreme necessity ..
The question now is how much do you owe your wife?
The equivalent of all these jobs or fatigue that you do without feeling while you are outside the house with all its suffering with the home and the children
Now do you know why God, may He be glorified and exalted, took from you a thick covenant for your wife?
Your wife does not take a salary from you for your service and that of your children, on the contrary, she works like this and much more.
With love, consent and kindness,
Just to see your smile on her face and say to her
(Greet your hands and your fatigue), or you say to them (Peace be upon the sweetness and perfection)
This would be her biggest treasure in this world, to praise her and treat her well and treat the children as a partner with you in life.
... Fear God in your women ...
Treat them as you would like your daughters to be treated when they marry ...
Just as your daughter is dear to you, your wife is dear to her father and she was a spoiled (princess) in her father's house ...
They took the commandment of our Prophet Al-Mustafa, may God bless him and grant him peace, when he commanded them in the farewell sermon:
I recommend you to women well,
And when he said: Attached to the bottles,
And when he said: "Your best for his family, and I am your best for my family."
O Messenger of God, I have believed.
Fear God, be happy and congratulations of your life
There is no miserable life but there are those who are miserable themselves ..
Our Lord granted us from our husbands and offspring the apple of eyes, and made us to the righteous as leaders.
Few people understand and implement these commandments
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